But while you were picking out names for your future children, he was picking out colors for future slutty underwear and crazy places you could get away with "doing it".
Even if he was thinking about you as his future wife, that was only after a long and torrid period as his hot, sexy, adventurous girlfriend.
That's quite understandable -- and often those questions do come to mind, months afterwards, as both parties are trying to pick up the shards of their lives and figure out where they went wrong.
For the dudes who turned to a pro, it's often the GFE that lures them in.
You might remember it differently, but likely he thought the first sex (or maybe the third -- sometimes it takes a few to find the memorable one) you had together was AMAZING, so amazing he started considering what it would be like to spend the rest of his life with that naughty vixen.
Sure, he was in the throes of infatuation -- likely you were too.
Sure, it might not be as frequent as it was -- but hell, you aren't 19 anymore, are you? And how could it be that frequent with all you have to do? It's amazing you're in the mood at all, and then the stars have to line up for it to happen. (His girlfriend.) You see, your husband never stopped thinking about you as his girlfriend, first and foremost.
And when it does happen, it's good, solid responsible married-people sex, two positions max, no oral, see you in a fortnight. Sure, it's nice when it happens, but the way he mopes around about it, and then gets frustrated, well, you're his Wife, not his damn sex slave. Long after trading in your engagement ring for a wedding band, he still thought about you as "my girlfriend I'm going to marry" in his subconscious.
And, perhaps, how you can put that into context of your own sex life.
And sometimes a dude just needs his girlfriend to tell him how wonderful he is, suck his dick, and then leave him alone for a while. They want someone to spend some quality time with it, not rush through it while you think about the PTA canned food drive and how you're going to fire that asshole at work -- we can feel that shit running through your heads when you do that, sometimes.
It's amazing what a panacea that is to the vast majority of men. It sustains us, recharges, us, makes us feel loved and appreciated the way nothing else can. It's about someone admiring him, admiring his penis with oohs! For the real GFE, the look of utter devotion and intense joy you display about being fortunate enough to be the lucky girl who gets to play with his cock is like running on premium fuel.
The Girl Friend Experience is just that: where a man pays a prostitute to act and behave the same way a new girlfriend does in the early-and-horny stage of infatuation.
After the financial arrangement has been satisfied, then for the duration of the appointment the professional showers the client with physical affection -- hugging, kissing, holding hands, praising him, asking him about himself, and acting utterly fascinated by everything that falls out of their client's mouths -- no matter how banal. All of those things are part-and-parcel of the infatuation stage of a relationship as it culminates with sex.