On her return from a short break, I told her how we missed her and wrote her a card on behalf of the entire team, which she proudly displayed on her board. Every time I came to work, she would tell me how excited she was to see my big smile.
One night, I sent her a text message telling her I missed her.
DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince tell us "the smell from a grill can spark off nostalgia," but I disagree in the strongest possible terms. The scent of a roaring fireplace, the crack of helmets at a high-school football game, that first day when you need a sweater, the taste of nutmeg all take me back to every autumn that has passed.
And for me, the season has a specific soundtrack, and it's the heartsick music of Boston's indie scene in the late-'80s and early-'90s: Buffalo Tom, Blake Babies, Juliana Hatfield, Dinosaur Jr, Lemonheads.
It’s not easy being the boss’ daughter, especially when you know deep down you’re his son. I thought, why not make my co-workers brand evangelists for me? Then, one day, my dad, who knew about my struggle, put me on the board-meeting agenda for 5 p.m.
I was 24, and thought I’d work a year or two at my dad’s agency, then move away and transition in secret. There were eight white men in suits and ties, looking at me in my sneakers, khakis and blue linen shirt.
As I sat there, shaking, I wondered if my outfit looked like Pat’s from “SNL.” After my father introduced me, I explained what gender dysphoria was, and asked them to imagine having a woman’s reflection staring back at them in the mirror.
When I told them I thought of killing myself, one man had tears in his eyes.
I noticed an empty flower vase in her office, and because she was always very nice to me, I started bringing flowers from my garden.
My friend, you are under-analyzing your own behavior. You wonder whether she is interested in you and whether she was leaving romantic clues for you to decipher. She told you it wasn't appropriate to send "I miss you" texts to your boss, who presumably you'd see in 12 hours. Putting aside whatever policy your high-end hotel has about managers dating their underlings, it is needy and off-putting.) So instead of dialing your behavior back a little bit, you Welcome back! Okay, Z—what we're going to do is look at this from her perspective.
Your manager meets you, steps in to help you acclimate to a new job, and likes your energy.
The next day, she told me that she wanted to keep it professional, and that I should not be texting her such messages. The next day I came into work, and instead of my happy, smiling face, I put on a more professional front.
She went on a two-week vacation, and when she came back, I didn't go out of my way to welcome her back or leave a card.